When I joined Hallmark Cards in the 80’s, I was excited. I felt I had landed a fun job. I mean, who doesn’t like “greeting cards”? I had spent many hours standing in card aisles, laughing at funny cards with snappy punch lines or getting emotional at the sappy ones. I loved cards. Now I…

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The importance of vulnerability has been written about extensively by John and Henry over the years. Recently, Brene Brown ignited our imagination for the power of vulnerability through her books and Ted talks. These thought leaders have helped us see that we desperately need vulnerability; but doing vulnerability well is a challenge.  Our inability to…

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I Like William In the affluent Ivy League town of Princeton, New Jersey, someone like William tends to stick out from the crowd. William is sixty-seven years old, and, as is evident by his appearance, he has a disability. William has cerebral palsy. Our family had become aware of William because we’d see him riding…

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Everyone has different reactions to the concept of “good enough”. Some laugh, some recoil, some are curious.  Good enough can feel like a cop-out, a license for mediocrity, or a recipe for disaster.   For most of us, good enough doesn’t compute, because we live in two gears:  it’s either “perfect” or a total “failure.” But,…

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I did some time in Juvenile Hall and Prison. Prior to my time in these ‘penitentiaries’, I had spent thousands of hours engaging in personal and academic study, mentoring relationships, spiritual direction, deep and quality friendships in Christian communities, pastoral counseling, service to others, various discipleship efforts, my own therapy, reading quality books, and more.…

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Structure.  It’s a word that evokes different emotions.  Some people hear the word and relax.  (After all, how could you get through life without structure?)  Some try to deny its existence or necessity.  (Those people need to relax!)  We learn so many of life’s habits when we are growing up.  I, personally, wasn’t raised with…

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About 10 years ago, I noticed something puzzling about my relationships. It was subtle at first but as I began to tune in it became more apparent something wasn’t quite right. When I spent time with one friend, Ginger* I would feel tired by the time our visit ended, drained, like I needed a nap.…

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Who needs a Coach? Well, just about everyone!  Maybe I should say, everyone who wants to grow!  Is there an area of your life you have been wanting to achieve change in, but just haven’t quite been able to do it on your own?  Want to grow your business?  Scale it?  Or maybe you’ve sold…

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The day after his 6th Super Bowl Championship, I was surprised to hear Tom Brady say he is more motivated by criticism than by compliments.  When asked about his reaction to being called the “G.O.A.T” (Greatest Of All Time), Brady said, “It makes me cringe.” With my coaching hat on (executive coaching that is), I…

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When I first went to work with John and Henry in 1997, I was excited to be doing work I believed was meaningful and significant.  I loved their mission; helping people heal, thrive and grow. It was rewarding to work for two men that I admired and respected. Additionally, I felt my past work experience…

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In Alice in Wonderland by Lewis Carroll, there is an interesting exchange with Alice and the Cheshire Cat. Alice has come to a fork in the road and doesn’t know which direction to go. She must choose a path – one way or the other, she is in a quandary. Alice looks up and she…

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