If you listen to the media, you could believe that this is the most self-absorbed generation of people ever to walk this planet. Sometimes it does feel that way. And while tracking sociological trends is outside my field, after decades working as a psychotherapist and coach, I’ve come to trust my own perspective on humanity. I’ve had the great honor …
The Problem with Guilt by Randall Rheinheimer, Ph.D.,MFT
Is there a problem with guilt? Is it good or bad? Is it necessary, and if so, what purpose does it serve? Many psychological theorists have held guilt to be pathological. However, other theorists believe it to be an aspect of morality. Freud believed that guilt was necessary, without it, he believed there could be no civilized society. For Christians, …
Confession by Dennis Del Valle
James 5:16 “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.” One evening my 7-year-old son, Elisha, and I were talking and he started asking questions, as a 7-year-old does. He asked about money and how I get it to pay …
Perfectionism by Kimber Del Valle
I consider myself a recovered perfectionist. In my youth, my perfectionism helped me succeed and achieve great things – valedictorian, top female scholar-athlete in both high school and college, president of clubs – too many to list, active in church ministry positions and on and on. However, what festered underneath my achievements was a depression that reared up when I …
Your Promised Land
We can learn great lessons for our own life from the Bible. Do you recall God telling Moses about the Promised Land, and more importantly, the life he wanted His people, to have? (Deuteronomy 1: 6- 8) He gave them a vision of a new life in this Promised Land; a new place for them to prosper and enjoy. There …
Longing for Belonging
The Christmas season can be such a beautiful time of the year; twinkling lights, festive decorations, nostalgic music, fun parties and too much tasty food. It can also be a painful time because it often highlights losses. The loss of a loved one or the absence of those who have moved on, through divorce or moving away, can be devastating …